Debunking the Myth - Clay Aiken Really is Cool.

American Idol Success Stories

2008-04-21T18:17:00.000-07:00

Clay Aiken is the reason why so many "American Idol" also-rans dream of the "wild card" policy being reinstated. The skinny pencil-necked kid with the unexpectedly mature voice was eliminated early on in Season 2, but he was invited back to the show as a wild card contestant. After that, he never landed in the bottom three, becoming a massive fan favorite and making it all the way to the finale. He eventually lost to Ruben Studdard, but given all the attention he received after "Idol" (he made the cover of "Rolling Stone" before Ruben did, for instance), he was clearly Season 2's REAL winner. Still the top-selling "Idol" runner-up of all time with 5 million albums sold, and now a hit on Broadway in "Spamalot," Clay is readying his first album of all-original material in five years, "On My Way Here." And with a title track penned by Midas-touched hit-maker Ryan Tedder of OneRepublic, Clay's new CD is sure to carry on his "wild" success.

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Fear of the Unknown

2007-11-18T06:35:00.000-08:00

So much GOOD news lately...for which to be thankful.

The skating special...the upcoming Spamalot run on Broadway...the entertaining "Are You Smarter Than a Fifth Grader" appearance, that netted the Bubel/Aiken Foundation $300,000...the BAF golf tournament...a new publicist...the surprise appearance at Harvard on behalf of UNICEF, and at the special educator's conference in North Carolina...the Christmas tour...

Oh, and something about a NEW CD coming next year...? Yeah, all exceptionally GOOD stuff!

It occurs to me that ever since Clay told the world he was moving on from the petty media bashing, that well,....he truly has. He is living his life, fulfilling his potential, making a difference. It also occurs to me that I have seen very little "bashing" of Clay in the legitimate media of late. Sure, the anonymous bloggers and miscellaneous "anti-fans" are still out there spewing their sewage, but they are of no relevence to Clay's life, or mine. In fact, most people outside the Clay Nation are not even aware of them.

No doubt there are still those lazy and untalented "journalists" in the legitimate media who will occasionally fall back on the practice of filling up their space and building up their word count and hits with unoriginal comments about Clay; but perhaps some of them have moved on as well.

Perhaps some of them have realized that the public ridicule of a self-confessed heterosexual male, using gay-based comments as insults, is really just a way to publicly ridicule all gays. Somewhere along the way, it has sadly become socially acceptable to gay bash a straight guy that is perceived to be gay. The unenlightened and homophobic public takes out its rage and contempt on him and others because they subconsciously want to bash all gays.

However, once a gay man comes out publicly, their hate speech becomes non politically correct, even punishable; witness actor Isaiah Washington losing his job for his homophobic slur against fellow actor T.K. Knight.

Clay has served long enough as the media proxy for homophobic bashing of gay men; to be harrassed and ridiculed for something he is not, on behalf of those who are not MAN enough to face off against true, OUT gay men for fear of being labeled "homophobic." Unexplainedly, some of the gay media are often the worst offenders.

After all, the true meaning of "homophobia" is "fear of homosexuals." Surely the gay media isn't afraid of itself. Is it?

I think what some of the unenlightened are truly afraid of isn't gay men. Perhaps what they are really afraid of is Clay himself, and what he represents.

More to come.

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Debunking the ReUnited Tour (that never was)

2007-10-07T05:55:00.000-07:00

Reunited? I guess not.

Clay put the kibosh on this rumor in a recent blog at his fan club. His sharing of factual information sure did light a fire under Miss Kimberley it seems, as she released a snide, passive-aggressive in your face tirade about it soon after.

My, my, my. How notoriety can change one. It seems she took on the public persona of many of her supporters - bitchy diva. Or maybe she was always that way, who knows.

Interesting poll results - despite the the mostly moaning and bitching on the fan boards, if you add the "yes" votes (9) and the "maybe" votes (9) then possibly a few folks really would attend a concert to see these three reunited.

But now, due to Clay's probity in setting the record straight, and Kimberley's bitchy tirade of a reply, it will never happen.

I feel the worst for Ruben; he probably would have just had a good time singing with his old friends.

Anybody Wanna (Soft) Rock?

2007-09-13T19:53:00.001-07:00

Vacations. Gotta love them.

But you miss so much! Being a Clay fan is almost a full time job. Seriously; you take a week off and Clay blogs twice, a tour is promoted and debunked, and the Rosie/Ripa ripoff rears it's ridiculous head yet again.

Ahhhh...as the Clay World Turns.

I found the results of the first poll very interesting. There were 40 votes total. It seems that 85% of voters would prefer Clay to tour with a band next non-holiday tour, as opposed to 15% who prefer the orchestral accompaniment.

I agree. But then I love the pop-rock flavor lead guitar and bass bring to the mix.

Jesse Vargas is an amazingly talented musician, arranger and performer. He did a wonderful job with the songs from A Thousand Different Ways, and I do feel that the strings and woodwinds brought just the right flavor to the songs from the CD. Sean McDaniel did a bang up job as well, and added much to the arrangements. But just think of the vibrant intensity some rock guitar would have brought to I Want to Know What Love Is, or the amazing energy a few well placed guitar riffs would have given the radio medley.

However, the stand out portion of the concert, for me anyway, was the warm and fuzzy one-two punch of the final two songs in the set - Lover All Alone and Because You Loved Me.

And without the plaintive yearning of the solitary cello and the swell of passion the strings brought to those performances? Well, it just wouldn't have been right.

So for this tour - the orchestra was perfect. For the Christmas tour - the orchestra is perfect. But for the next pop tour? I'm hoping for a full out guitar-centric band; complete with keys, horns and percussion. I'm not one who yearns for the mysterious "Rocker Clay" that so many dream of, but I love the energy a live band brings to the stage.

And I think Clay does too. I've seen the proof.

But then again....we'll always have "party all night!"

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He's Clay Aiken...Good Night!

2007-09-07T18:28:00.000-07:00

Thanks to snowluv4 for the video.

Good Night Clay.

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I am NOT a booger.

2007-09-06T18:49:00.000-07:00

Uncle Frank, bloggers are not something that come out of your nose!

Well, in most cases. However, last night, you nailed it. Yes, I'm talking about that cute Jimmy Kimmel's Uncle Frank. Yes, there was some fugly gossip blogger on the show last night. No, I didn't watch it. Why? Because I didn't feel like bleaching out my eyes (and brain) at one o'clock in the morning.

And, because I care not one IOTA about what he or any other money grubbing famewhore has to say.

Almost a year ago, I wrote this. It was an ephiphany of sorts, and I haven't cared since.

Here's to not caring. Cheers!

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Self Identity and Pop Culture. And the Media.

2007-09-05T21:09:00.001-07:00

Hello!

It's been a while since I've been on here yakking about Clay. Not because I lost interest, quite the contrary! It's just that sometimes, right as we start having fun, life has other plans for us.

Anyway, I have been keeping up with Clay, and checking this blog occasionally for comments, and I read one in particular back in April. It was posted on the very first blog I wrote on this site, a year ago this month. It was called "Debunking the Myth of the Claymates."

I stewed over it for a little while, then promptly forgot about it. But for some reason, it came back to me the other day; out of the blue, for no good reason.

So, I am compelled to address it. Here it is, posted as a comment under that very first blog.

Anonymous said...
Its a shame that it has come to this. Why do you have to defend yourselves? You are accomplished, multi-faceted, multi-cultural, diverse women. Its makes no difference whether your hair is blonde, blue, brown, grey, black, red, purple, green or whether you're 18 or 80. Society's double standards have caused the blog author to spend valuable time setting up a place for all of you to waste energy justifying why you are a fan of Clays'. Life is too short Ladies. You don't owe anyone anything, especially, the media, people you don't even know. Instead focus on this bond that is so clearly shown in your comments. Don't let the media accomplish its mission to divide and conquer. Stay true to yourselves and united to and with the one thing that brought all of you together in the first place: Clay. Nothing else matters. Why is personal and should only be shared if you choose to do so. I have yet to see him live and I do hope that will change very soon. In the meantime, I will say, more than anything that I look forward to and welcome the opportunity to meet the exceptional women that make up the Claynation. God Bless you all. Have a Heavenly Day.

Tuesday, April 10, 2007 7:50:00 PM

Oh honey. Oh sweetie. Oh darlin...au contraire!

It's not a shame; not at all. That blog was not written a year ago to provide a place for Claymates to defend themselves. That blog was about empowerment, denying media labels and reversing pop culture stereotyping. It was about encouraging fans to speak out, and to show the world that Clay's fans are just what you said - "accomplished, multi-faceted, multi-cultural, diverse women." It was about proving that the media was dead wrong.

I consider that to be healthy and liberating, not a "waste of energy." It's a way to use my voice. Saying nothing implies approval, or at least tolerance. It says I have no problem with the media's characterization of me. But I do. I have a big problem with it.

Does it affect my ability to have fun in this fandom? Oh heck no!

You say that the reasons "we" like Clay are personal - not for me they aren't. But I surely respect your own need for privacy in the matter, and others who may feel the same. I am not embarrassed, or ashamed, or hesistant for anyone to know that I admire and respect Clay Aiken as a person, as an artist, as a humanitarian. He's smart, funny and talented. What's not to enjoy?

You say we should share only if we choose to do so. Well, I choose to do so. That's why I created this blog. That's why I wrote that first entry....that's why I'm using my voice.

Allowing others to define how I enjoy Clay, or any other artist for that matter, is what I consider to be a waste of energy.

There are other things too; but that's another blog.

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Chicken Soup Book Sales to Benefit The BAF

2007-09-02T17:39:00.000-07:00

The Bubel/Aiken Foundation, along with other deserving organizations, will benefit from sales of the newly released book "Chicken Soup for the Soul: Children With Special Needs."

The book celebrates special children, and is a source of encouragement, humor and inspiration. It also includes a story from Kristy Barnes, former director of the foundation.

Through knowledge comes understanding.

Click here to order.

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...and now for something completely different...

2007-09-01T06:32:00.001-07:00

As you can see, the name of this blog has been changed from "Debunking the Myth of the Claymates" to "Debunking the Myth - Clay Aiken Really is Cool."

I'm taking the blog in a new direction; it will hopefully be unlike any other blog or message forum out there, hopefully will be fun and/or interesting, or maybe both, and will definitely be all about supporting Clay.

If there's one thing I've learned from Clay beyond anything else, it's this -

Be yourself.

And....

Use your voice.

See you soon.

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Clay, Live at The Greek Theater LA, August 4

2007-08-06T08:23:00.000-07:00

Clay performs "Because You Loved Me" as a thank you to his fans to close out his concert at The Greek Theatre in Los Angeles, August 4, 2007.

Yes, those are glowsticks. Pretty, aren't they?

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The Most Joyous Thing

2007-07-23T21:45:00.000-07:00

This article recently appeared in the Oakland Press:

It's been four years and three albums since Clay's runner-up turn on "American Idol." But the North Carolina-born singer says he's still trying to find his place in the pop world.

"I'm still trying to figure out exactly where I want to be and where I want to go," says Aiken, 28, who finished behind Ruben Studdard in "Idol's" second season. "I think the difference between someone like Kelly (Clarkson) and I is she really has found her niche and pushed herself beyond the 'Idol' kind of thing.

"But there are so many different things I like."

For now, Aiken is promoting his latest album, "A Thousand Different Ways," which features 10 covers - including love songs by Richard Marx, John Waite, Elton John, Bon Jovi and Dolly Parton - and four originals. It's an outgrowth of Aiken's 2004 summer show, which focused on his personal favorites from the '50's through the present day. But Aiken says it's not necessarily a direction he'll stay in beyond this album - and he even has designs on doing more than just music.

"I think people like to put (performers) in a box and categorize them somehow -'This person is an actor. This person is a singer,'" Aiken explains. "It's very rare you'll find somebody who's known for more than one thing.

"So right now, I think people see what we do as singing. I'd love to change that a bit to kind of branch out and be known as other things."

Well yeah Clay, people do see what you do as singing! Because well, that's what you do. I don't really care what else he does, as long as he continues to sing.

He has mentioned several times, many times really, that he wants to do a talk show.

I don't watch talk shows, hate them really; but I wish him luck if that's the course he decides to take. I might tune in for the singing parts.... OK, I'll definitely tune in for the singing parts!

If he does Broadway, I'll never get to see him, and that would be sad.

Acting in movies would probably drive him crazy, he just doesn't realize it yet. All that standing around...I don't think he could stand that!

He could do stand up - seriously, he could. He is just that funny.

I know it's his life, and I know he deserves to be happy and make his own choices, and I would never deny him that privilege.

But....please Clay - please never stop using your voice. You said in your book that "singing is the single most joyous thing a person can do."

I hope you still feel the same way.

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A Commentary on Self Identity and Pop Culture

2007-07-17T21:45:00.000-07:00

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UNICEF Ambassador Clay Aiken Visits Afghanistan

2007-07-12T17:53:00.000-07:00

UNICEF Ambassador Clay Aiken visits Afghanistan

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Make a difference in your own life, in your own way, in your own time.

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More Debunking

2007-03-02T08:22:00.000-08:00

Clay fan does not equal American Idol fan.

I didn't watch season one of Idol. I also didn't watch seasons 3, 4, or 5. Nor am I watching the current season.

Actually, I only watched season two because a friend begged to check out "the nerdy guy with the amazing voice." And I did, because I am a good friend that way.

I hated the show itself, but I had to watch because I got caught up in Clay; what he was singing, how he looked, if he was having fun, etc.

So, people who know me, please stop asking me if I prefer Gina or Jordan or Chris R. or Chris S.

I have no idea who those people are. Being a Clay fan does not genetically predispose me to be a fan of American Idol. Debunk that! I.don't.care.

Now, on to the "anomaly!"

I don't feel that Clay was "robbed" because he didn't win American Idol. He didn't win American Idol because he had too many fans. Simple. How can there be anything bad about that? Ruben had tons of fans too, but Clay had more, as evidenced by all that has occurred since. Just enough more so that the phone lines at the time could not handle it. So many that we overloaded the lines, therefore more of "us" could not get through to cast our votes.

So you can forget about believing that all "true" Claymates think Clay not winning was an anomaly. In fact, winning seems to be irrelevent, since in nearly every article written about AI, Clay is mentioned as the loser who won anyway. If losing means selling over 4 million CDs, being on magazine covers and living in a 9,000 square foot home, then please Lord, let me be a loser too!

Clay and Ruben are not competitors. They are both successful. They are friends. It's all good.

And finally, what is up with Clay's hometown newspaper? Normally I never give those snide remarks from alleged "hipper-than-thou" music critics a second thought. In fact, more often than not, their comments merely serve to reveal their own inadequacies - in writing, in their understanding of the consuming public, and in their appreciation of vocal virtuosity.

But this...

March 31 at Cardinal Club, Raleigh
Clay Aiken

Raleigh's hometown "American Idol" star has never been a critical favorite, and it's hard to imagine he ever will be. Aiken's multiplatinum days seem over (last year's "A Thousand Different Ways" was his first album to sell fewer than 1 million copies), and he has weathered a storm of personal-life rumors. None of which matters a whit to Aiken's beyond-rabid following of "Claymates," who are some of the most feverishly loyal fans in the music business.

To his credit, Aiken is still using his clout to do good works. This show is a high-priced charity gala for his Bubel/Aiken Foundation, which works with special-needs kids.

Respect means never having to say you're sorry.

...just seriously makes this guy whose name I already forgot seem totally out of touch.

If I were the type to be baited into responding to such trite drivel, I might say something like...

Saying Aiken's multiplatinum days "seem over" displays an amazing lack of relevent perspective. Clay has released three full length albums. Two of them went platinum and more. The first was called "the best pop album of 2003" by Billboard magazine, and his collection of beautifully classic Christmas songs set an opening week sales record when it was released in November 2004.

His third CD, of mostly cover tunes, which would be a difficult sell to any fan base, was certified gold five weeks after it's release. Wow, that's terrible! Clay should be so ashamed! Get real, dude.

Personal life rumors? Really? Do tell. I guess now we know what distinguished tomes the local music critic peruses in his spare time. Classy!

And finally, I am not rabid, and I am personally insulted by your implication that "all" Claymates are. In fact, I am not even "feverish." But I am loyal.

After all, that's in the definition of "fan," right? I am a fan, a supporter, an appreciater of Clay, his voice, his personality, and his heart.

Photo Credit Jack Guy
Besides, being a passive bystander does not a fan make. I believe that I get to define how I enjoy an artist, not you, not anyone else in the media, and in all honesty, not even Clay.

Sure, there are "beyond rabid" people out there. And there are just as many who admire and respect Clay as an artist and as a human being, and behave accordingly.

I resent being painted with the same brush as the loony birds, many of whom have morphed from "enthusiastic" fans into obsessed, over the top stalkers.

So back off, Mr. Music Guy. I don't insult you for your musical choices, what gives you the right to insult me about mine?

But, I'm not one of those people who bulls up at every trite remark, so I'll just say this -

Live and let live dude. I hear it's the summer of love. Peace out.

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Lover All Alone by Clay Aiken

2007-02-15T22:38:00.000-08:00

Viral market this!

This beautiful song was offered only as a bonus track with an iTunes purchase of Clay's last CD, "A Thousand Different Ways."

It's Clay's first known published song; he wrote the lyrics, David Foster and Emanuel Kiriakou wrote the music and produced.

Check it out. And, spread the word. How? Link this blog, share the URL (http://www.debunkthis.blogger.com), post your own blog about "Lover All Alone", email this link, search YouTube for more video using the song, use the song in your own montage and share it...talk about the song on any message forums you visit, tell your friends, share the love.

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Maybe I've convinced myself, I've really been in love;
And I've been wrong, all along...
For all I know the feeling and the picture that I've tried
so hard to find...isn't mine
Could be
It's all just a waiting game
Wanna share my everything
And on my own, it's hard to tell my heart it'll be alright;
This love it holds will one day find a home...
As hard as love can be, it's harder still it seems
To be a lover all alone, without love
Pickin up the pieces makes me wonder if I only build it all,
To watch it fall
The faster it can go away it means the less of me is goin to stay
And I'm okay...
But lonesome tomorrow comes anyway, I'm alone for another day
Another day....
And on my own, it's hard to tell my heart it'll be alright;
That this love it holds will one day find a home...
As hard as love can be, it's harder still it seems
To be a lover all alone, without love
And on my own, it's hard to tell my heart it'll be alright;
That this love it holds will one day find a home...
As hard as love can be, it's harder still it seems
To be a lover all alone, without love
A lover all alone....without love

Maybe I've convinced myself, I've really been in love
But I've been wrong, all along...

Peace, Love, Music.

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Rants, Raves and Rambles

2007-02-09T08:55:00.000-08:00

Have you ever been struck by a thought? Did it hurt?

Just a few random thoughts I have accumulated over the past couple of weeks; intending to delve more deeply but who has the time any more?

Speaking of time, who decided that 40 was the magic number when it comes to hours worked per week? Please let me know so I can track them down and kick their butt. Eight hours a day - it's too many. And how many of us work 9 or even 10 hours some days? Considering that many of us commute, and the time we take to groom ourselves each day, I would say that many people average half of their 24 hours getting ready to go to work, going to work, leaving work and working. Not to mention the kids, the pets, the meals, the laundry, the housework....I wonder how Jack Bauer manages to do so much in his 24 hours?

Speaking of 24 hours, it's good to remember that life as we know it can change in just one day. It did for the baby of Anna Nicole Smith. Whatever you may think of her, whatever she did or did not do, or take, or wear, or didn't wear....she is a human being, and deserves a modicum of respect in her passing. However, what she deserves and what she gets are two decidedly different things. Read this MSNBC article about how the "culture vultures" were feasting on her demise before she was even pronounced. Sad, sick and disgusting. But then what do you expect from those who are as obsessed with hating celebrities as many are obsessed with loving them?

Culture Vultures

On the other hand, this is the very same network who quoted an Internet gossip blog as a source, and featured reps from tabloid publications in their news story about Anna Nicole's death. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black...Hello!

Speaking of culture vultures, a random gossip blogger recently reported that he was "invited" to a music industry showcase hosted by RCA's Clive Davis. This very same vulture has very publicly denigrated some of RCA's top selling artists, published unflattering and juvenile altered photographs of them, besmirched their reputations, and questioned their character. In return, he is "invited" to attend an industry event? I have to wonder if this was a "reward" of sorts, or if the persons planning the event are just insanely ignorant.

Or, is this what PR in the entertainment industry has come to? It gives new meaning to Clay Aiken's comment in TV Guide a couple of years ago, that some people in Hollywood are so concerned with their outsides they let their insides rot. Indeed.

Speaking of entertainment, the Grammys aired tonight. Started out with a bang with the reunited Police, singing their 70s hit Roxanne. Another highlight was Rascal Flatts, dueting with Carrie Underwood on a medley of Eagles hits, including the beautiful Desperado, from...what's this? The 70s. John Meyer riffing like Jimi Hendrix, Smokey Robinson and Lionel Ritchie rocking the stage with their hits from the 70s and 80s, Christina Aguilera singing James Brown's It's A Man's World, from the 60s, and really...need I say more? These current pop stars were basically singing the dreaded cover songs, and not their own songs. Even some of the commercials during the show featured 80s music. Why?

Possibly because there isn't much to be happy about in the music industry right now. The entire show seemed to be marketed to the boomers, unlike previous years which were usually filled with live performances by people who can't sing, presenters I've never heard of, and music I don't like. This year there was lots of talk about music in schools, encouraging kids who love music, and letting an unknown win a chance to sing with current pop king Justin Timberlake. A grand display of promoting everyone's accessibility to music. I wonder why there was no mention of radio payola, free music downloads on MySpace, and price collusion on CDs.

Lots of people now download music a song at a time, and not since the current baby boomers were boomettes have many of them actually purchased an entire CD, a actual disc, in an actual record store. I'm not expert; in fact, I'm not even that interested in the music business. Rather, I'm just interested in MUSIC.

Are there still record stores? With the demise of Sam Goody's and Tower Records, are the Walmarts and Best Buys of the world the last bastion of brick and mortars where you can enter, purchase a CD, and listen to it in the car on the way home? Does anyone have a cabinet full of CDs any more, or is all our music stored on our computers, and what happens if you have a hard drive failure? Bye bye Death Cab for Cutie.

This Claymate enjoyed the show this year. I'm glad I watched. Congratulations to the Dixie Chicks, who share a manager, Simon Renshaw, with Clay.

And while I thought the performances this year were above average in comparison to recent years previous, Clay Aiken still would have blown them all away.

Peace, Love, Music.

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Clay Aiken: A Man of Heart

2007-01-29T17:18:00.000-08:00

February is shaping up to be a good month for Claymates, Clay Dawgs, Claymaniacs, Clay Nation, Claynadians, and all Clay's fans. It ain't called the "love month" for nothing!

The extraordinary video above is from Yahoo! Answers, which is currently featuring Clay's question, "What can we do to get more Americans committed to supporting programs that help children?"

You may share your own thoughts and also view two other videos at YahooAnswers.com.

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The month of love - it begins on February 1, as Clay visits Good Morning America. According to the official fan club, Clay will appear next Thursday on behalf of UNICEF. Interested citizens may participate in this interactive appearance, by asking Clay their own questions about UNICEF and his role with them, or other pertinent questions in their feature "Be Seen, Be Heard." From their site:

Send in your question for American Idol singing sensation Clay Aiken -- and he may answer it on Good Morning America or ABC News Now! Find out why he has chosen to speak up as a Unicef Goodwill Ambassador!

Click here for more details.

Also on February 1, tickets go on sale for the first "Champions of Change" Benefit Gala in support of the Bubel/Aiken Foundation. In partnership with the Cardinal Club of Raleigh, NC, the event will be held on March 31, 2007. Check the BAF website on Thursday for more details.

Monday, February 5, brings yet another showing of Clay's episode of Scrubs from 2005, "My Life in Four Cameras." It airs at 7:30 pm EST on the Comedy Channel. The show aired originally in February 2005.

In the wee hours of Valentine's Day, February 14, at 2:00 am EST, Clay's episode of Saturday Night Live, with host Megan Mullally, airs on E!. This will be a truncated version of the original show, which originally aired in February 2004.

Later that same day, Clay visits Jimmy Kimmel Live in what is becoming perilously close to an annual tradition! I wonder what Clay will shave for Jimmy this time. ; ) Tune in at 12:05 am EST (just after midnight!) Valentine's night for what is sure to be a good time with the guys. Please note: Clay is not scheduled to perform at this time.

Clay Aiken is a man of heart, and of substance. He is making a difference, and helping "us" make a difference as well.

Thank you Clay. We Heart You.

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Tabloids Are Stupid

2007-01-13T07:43:00.000-08:00

From the Claymaniacs News Blog.

Tabloids Are Stupid

FYI: Some tabloid has a cover story about Clay Aiken being "fat" and "popping pills." He already told us about taking prescribed medication for a medical reason, so big dilly deal. But FAT? Please. We aren't stupid.

Besides, just last week they were calling him "skinny, gawky, elfish, and pixielike."

Well, here's the real deal. Clay Aiken is not fat...he's HOT. Read it and weep you silly tabloid rag.

Just who do they think we are anyway? Idiots? I think not. Why on earth would someone spend their hard earned money on something that insults their intelligence? Not this Claymate.

DON'T BUY TABLOIDS!

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Clay Aiken: Best Makeover of 2006?

2007-01-04T16:31:00.000-08:00

In reality, it was just a haircut. But then, it is Clay after all.

Clay Aiken named celeb who had best makeover in 2006

Washington, Jan 03: While we assumed that celebrities - Hollywood`s so-called arbiters of style - had reached the pinnacle of fabulousness, 2006 showed us that some of our favourite celebs have raised the bar even higher with their makeovers last year.

Popsugar.com named the best and boldest celeb redos of the year.

Former "American Idol" star Clay Aiken - who had a major makeover - was voted number one in the website`s favourite new look of the year poll, after fetching 33 per cent of the total votes.

Singer Ashley Simpson - who had plastic surgery, most significantly a nose job - came in second with 640 votes(25 per cent).

Third slot was taken by Janet Jackson, who lost a whopping 60 pounds in just a few short months.

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A Lame Excuse for News in Greensboro

2006-12-27T20:44:00.000-08:00

Well, crap.

I was going to make this blog a retrospective of the past year; the ups and downs, the surprise media dynamo that was the appearance of Clay on AI5, the two new CDs we got this year, the warm and fuzzy visit to the Tyra Banks show, the UNICEF snowflake lighting ceremony, Jimmy Kimmel and the CD signing, the TV Guide close up special, Clay's appointment to a presidential committee, his being named Outstanding Young Alumnus of UNC Charlotte and maybe even his part in raising $1 million for David Foster's Annual Charity Gala.

But nooooo.

The Fox TV station in Greensboro NC has ruined my plans and compelled me to use my voice. The set up - Clay performed his 18th concert in 23 days last Saturday night in what was billed as "Clay Aiken Christmas with the Greensboro Symphony."

Apparently, a teenager named Joshua and possibly some others were told they could sing with or before Clay Saturday night. They even rehearsed for this performance. This fact was not publicized, nor was any fan I know aware of it. I have to wonder if Clay was even aware. Shortly before showtime, their performance was cancelled, reportedly due to either the content (not Christmas music) or time limitations.

According to Fox, "As a consolation, Joshua was allowed to sing 30 seconds leading a group sing-along. He also got to go backstage to meet and get a picture with Clay." Also according to Fox, Clay's "people" cancelled the extra performances because Clay wanted to do a longer set. This is a lie, as his set for this show was exactly the same as the other 17 shows. Fact checker please!

If this did happen, it's unfortunate for those involved, but hey, that's show biz, kids!

I'm sorry Joshua and his compadres didn't get to sing for Mama. But here's my issue - the fact that Greensboro's Fox station considers this kid's whining to be not only a "controversy," but actual NEWS.

Hello! On what planet is this news? Oh yeah...Planet Fox, home of the upcoming 6th season of American Idol, that's what planet! According to UPI, the Fox network is floundering, and eagerly awaits the return of American Idol to bolster it's poor ratings.

You know, Clay can't step outside his door without having some sh*t storm swirl around him. It's so freaking ridiculous, you just have to laugh!

These idiots in the media who have to create news where there is none for the sole purpose of bashing Clay - do you think they even realize how petty, small minded, and ignorant they seem? Somehow, I think not.

But I'm quite sure they know what I have known since the beginning - the man just has to show up and the kleig lights go on, the music starts and the hubbub and brouhaha begins! Clay's a diva! Clay's snotty! Clay's mean! He's the antiChrist, didn't you know? Some podunk weekly paper in Charlotte even recently blamed the fall of western civilization on him....I mean, seriously.

Delusional much? I laughed myself silly when I read that!

Why doesn't anyone ever call them on their inane articles? Where are the editors? Why do the fans have to rise up in defense of Clay, when instead they should be calling these alleged "news organizations" out for their misuse of the media, our time and their own energy?

Let me debunk a Claymate myth. As a Claymate, it's not my responsibility to defend Clay against the media bullies. He has an entire staff of well paid management and publicity people to defend him, and he's perfectly capable of defending himself as well.

The replies posted in response to these ignorant missives are always along the lines of "Clay wouldn't do that, or say that, he loves kids! He's a humanitarian! He's a good guy!"

Please. Frankly, none of that matters to anyone but us. No one cares that Clay is a UNICEF ambassador, the head of his own foundation, or even that he has sold millions of albums. Listen carefully: No.one.cares.

They only care that he is rich, and famous, and a huge pop culture icon, and has legions of fans who love him unconditionally, and all in such a short time....and they resent him for it, because he is, after all, just a regular guy, and yet he has it all, and they have nothing. They don't understand, and it scares them. Fear of the unknown. And they strike out in fear, with words of hate, and jealousy, and ignorance.

I'm debunking another myth, are you ready? I feel my personal role, as a Claymate, is to support him, not defend him.

I will support him, because I feel he is worthy of my time and energy. It's my choice. I'll support whomever I choose, and no media lackey with no hope of ever winning the Pulitzer is going to shame me into withdrawing that support. To think otherwise is delusional on their part.

I will support him by laughing, in public when warranted, at the petty, hipper-than-thou, lazy wannabe writers who think Clay is so famous, so important, so worthy an adversary as to spend their time and energy bashing him. I will tell them, when it strikes my fancy, how uninformed they appear, how small minded and whiny their words sound.

I will let them now how insignificant they are, in the big picture.

I will advise them to choose their words more carefully, for it's their words that reflect their intelligence, their self-awareness and how evolved they appear to the public. Or not.

Can you imagine how hilarious it would be, to read some soporific rant by some nobody, and see a bunch of replies of people laughing at the writer? Glorious! I will laugh at them and they will know their words have no affect on me, my life, or my support of Clay Aiken.

They are nothing to me, but my free will and freedom to support any artist I choose is everything.

So, if you happen across one of those petty little whiny articles about how Clay is the cause of the downfall of civilization, and you see a reply that looks like this:

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHhahahahahahahahaaaaaa!!

Be sure to stop in and say hey! For it will be me.

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Clay Aiken: The King of Controversy

2006-12-08T23:46:00.000-08:00

Or, is he the Sultan of Scandal? Would you believe The Dean of Disrepute?

I’ve been eagerly following the wondrousness that is Clay Aiken Live, as he begins his annual holiday tour; this version of which includes solo performances with local or traveling symphony orchestral groups, led by musical director Jesse Vargas, a veteran of the first Joyful Noise holiday tour.

In my mind’s eye, I always dreamed of just this very thing. Essential Clay - a mic, a spot, and an orchestra – delivering the dulcet tones that make up such beautiful and captivating holiday songs as “Emmanuel” and “My Grown Up Christmas List.”.

The lucky fans in attendance receive a blessed holiday gift – all the music that has begun to define Clay as the voice of Christmas present. From Clive’s favorite, “Christmas Waltz,” to the magnificent show ending encore and title song of the recent EP, “All is Well,” Clay brings the spirit, and the reason, for the season to everyone in his presence.

And, he’s bringing more. Much more.

He’s bringing humor, he’s bringing playfulness, and he’s bringing a cocky new attitude. And I like it!

Who would have ever thought back in September, when Clay angrily confronted Diane Sawyer about the media’s constant prying into his private life, that just a few short months later he would be publicly laughing about the "next big tabloid scandal?" For that matter, who in a million years would ever imagine that a mere three days after the “national debate” (tm Inside Edition) sparked by the “hand over mouth” incident with Kelly Rippa, that Clay would parody himself on national TV during a major music awards show?

Yet here he is, holding court on stage, in the middle of a symphonic Christmas concert, laughing about the possibility that he could be the cover boy for next week’s National Idiot tabloid rag. Not only laughing about it, but snarking big time about his alleged "love child," a "…skinny, little redheaded kid running around" somewhere.

Clay may have grown up a bit sheltered, raised without the benefit of a strong male role model. But make no mistake – the man has received the education of a lifetime in the past three years. He’s seen the children of Uganda that move through the night to seek safety in city shelters. He has held the small hands of orphaned children in the tsunami ravaged Banda Aceh region of Indonesia, and he has no doubt heard the devastating stories of being in the midst of the war torn Middle East from his brother. Last, as well as least, he has been enlightened to the rotten-souled industry types of Hollyweird, not to mention some freaky “fans” along the way.

Let’s put some things in perspective here.

I don't see the world through the eyes of Clay Aiken. But through my own eyes, I can see that Clay has come full circle. Through his life experiences, his recent humanitarian work, and his dealings with those in the “pop culture” media, he has learned how to separate the honorable from the hubris, and to laugh at the envious wannabes who deign to smear his name, impugn his character, and harm his career. He has also learned that his fans are beginning to learn the same.

Many people don’t seem to understand the position Clay took in regard to the discussion of his private life. “Just one statement,” some pleaded. “Just say it one more time,” as if one or twenty one more times would suddenly cause the topic to dissipate. I think not; not while the pop culture media exists only to showcase the foibles and flaws of our stars. Not while a large segment of the American public still desires to know the failings of the American rich and famous, so as to make them feel more worthy as flawed human beings themselves. No, whatever he may say, they would continue to challenge him.

Because that’s what they do.

Grammy nominated artist James Blunt recently said, in answer to a personal question, “My music is for sale. My private life is not.” The thought process that states celebrities sign away their privacy when they decide to seek fame is obsolete. An entertainer owes the public nothing but to entertain us. Preferably in the course of doing their job. Singing, performing, acting – it’s a job, not a commitment to lay bare the most personal aspects of their lives. Unless they so choose of course.

I’m taking Clay’s lead. I’m laughing at these sad little people who seem to have no purpose in their lives other than to prop themselves up by besmirching those who are more talented, more influential, more treasured and admired. I’m rolling my eyes at their pitiful little hate filled commentary, because seriously, their words are meaningless to me, or to Clay.

They came at him for almost a year, a huge pile on from all sides. They didn't hurt him. He's still standing, still singing, still making a difference.

From now on, I will read it and not weep, but laugh. Loudly and with much passion. Or most likely, I’ll just skip it and not read it at all.....

Look at the big picture. Nothing they can do, or say, means anything, in the big picture. Listen to Clay. He knows what's important in this world, he's seen it. He is a man of substance, significance, and purpose.

Welcome back Mr. Aiken. You friggin rock.

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Concert photos by Invisible926.

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Strength, Beauty, Power: Happy Birthday Clay!

2006-11-30T05:38:00.000-08:00

In Chinese astrology, Clay was born in the year of the horse. Well, of course he was. Strength, beauty, power.

Today, on Clay's birthday, I thought it would be fun to look to the stars to see what may lie ahead in Clay's journey. Just for kicks.

Disclaimer: While there are several learned stargazers in the Clay Nation, I am not one of them. I bow to their prowess in all things astronomical and astrological, but this, again, is just for fun.

In Chinese astrology, Clay's birth year designates him as an "Earth Horse."

"Horse people have a balance of the best kind of qualities. Have you ever seen a wild horse on the beach, with flying mane and flaring nostrils, every muscle bursting with life and je ne sais quois? Without a doubt, the Horse is the standard for grace, strength, rhythm and nobility. They have an amazing capacity for hard work. As a result, they know great success and financial security in their lifetimes.

With head held high, the mighty Earth Horse never has to apologize, never has the pangs of a guilty conscience gnawing away the very soul. The life of the Earth Horse passes all scrutiny. Earth Horses are elegant, spirited, and adventurous creatures. Poetry in motion! Earth Horses are among the most generous and caring of friends, tolerant of their friends' shortcomings, never judging, never showing cynicism. They blend the right balance of sympathy and empathy. As faithful and unwavering as the Horses are in their devotion to friends, it is important to tell you that they are never weaklings or martyrs. Their inherent dignity and pride demand honor and admiration. Earth Horses appreciate the good things of life and because of their dedication to their careers, have the financial resources to keep life on a steady keel. When it comes to Love & Relationships, life for the Earth Horse is exceedingly sad and dreary without love. The Earth Horse will go the extra length to please their partners. They love wild and romantic weekends and traditional whisperings of sweet nothings. They pass a happy life, their blood coursing with life bursting cadence."
Famous Horse People: Walt Disney, Billy Graham, Steven Spielberg, Joseph Haydn, Barbra Streisand, Nelson Mandela, Anwar Sadat, Neil Armstrong
©Tuvy

Earth Horse people are powerful, spiritual, adventurous, and musical. This suits Clay. He may disagree with the "poetry in motion" part. But truly, when he sings, every song becomes a love song, every movement of his hands becomes a lover's touch, and every note becomes a gift - wrapped in a passionate caress. That's poetic.

In traditional astrology, Sagittarius is one of the Fire signs, ruled by the planet Jupiter.

Sagittarius is the ninth sign of the zodiac, ruled by the planet Jupiter, one of the Fire signs, symbolized by an archer. Most astrologers characterize Sagittarians as "fun-loving, friendly, passionate, intellectual and straightforward." Eternally optimistic, often going through life naively believing everything will always turn out just fine, in spite of life's obstacles. In other words, they have faith. And sure enough, good luck seemingly follows them, and since life's grand rewards often seem to come effortlessly, they tend to be generous, kind and thoughtful with those rewards. Sagittarians value honesty, and their comments are often forthright.

Sagittarians respect tradition, but thrive on freedom of thought and new ideas. One thing I found very intriguing is that those born under the sign of Sagittarius often seek meaning in their lives through their own experiences, rather than through book learning or study. Thusly, they don't back down from conflict, or controversy. They are strong in faith, in heart and in constitution. Some tend to be idealists, drawing on an inborn faith in the future, always looking ahead, never limiting themselves to any one path.

And just for balance, and because I believe it's our flaws that make us fascinating and real, Sagittarians are often accused of being self-righteous, cruel in their brutal honesty, and sometimes, irresponsible and lazy.

Finally, this. The ruling planet of Sagittarius is Jupiter. In mythology, Jupiter was the protector of the state, the master educator in the ways of justice and truth. This is the origin of the nature of many Sagittarians to be connected to religion, politics, education and social causes.

Fascinating, intriguing and thought provoking. Just like Clay Aiken.

Just for fun, I looked up my Chinese astrological sign. Turns out, I'm a Fire Monkey. It figures.

Happy Birthday Clay! I wish you all the peaceful blessings you so deserve. May the love of your family, friends and fans wrap around your heart today, and every day.

Other information from:
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Here's Where Clay's Hands Have Been, Honey

2006-11-25T16:07:00.000-08:00

No words are necessary. Thank you Clay fan no1tvfan63.

Thanks also to Art for bringing this to my attention.

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The Meaning of Respect

2006-11-24T15:49:00.000-08:00

R-E-S-P-E-C-T...find out what it means to me.

I said I was done, and I am. I mainly just want to spread the word about this lovely story, and this wonderful man. Read the blog linked below to learn what respect means to Clay.

ClaySpots Blog

Next up....Clay on Tyra! Talk about respect - Tyra knows respect!

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The Meaning of Hypocrisy

2006-11-21T16:36:00.000-08:00

Kelly Ripacrite
Photo from ourdailyripa.com

For more evidence of hypocrisy, click on the ConCLAYve link in my blogroll.

Hey, I'm glad someone has a sense of humor about this silly incident!

And finally, is this unprecedented? Clay is the subject of two of AOL's Top 5 TV Moments this morning. I hear that noise again...it's called Buzz!

Vote for Clay & Tori!

With that, I'm done.

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Kelly Ripa Goes Off (The Deep End)

2006-11-20T10:42:00.000-08:00

Respect is a two way street.

Clay cohosted with Kelly Ripa on LIVE With Regis and Kelly last Friday. Well, he was supposed to be the cohost. In reality, he was mostly a stage fixture until the very end, not that I'm complaining or anything.

This show is not really on my radar normally, but I have seen it a few times, and always when Clay is on of course.

I read the comments on several message forums about the appearance, and comments about today's show as well, during which Kelly basically called Clay hostile, ill-mannered, and disrespectful. Good thing she was comforted by her good friend Howard Stern, him being such a bastion of integrity when it comes to the treatment of women after all.

Her comments seem to stem from the fact that he put his hand over her mouth on the show Friday, after apparently being frustrated that he couldn't get a word in edgewise. She fired off question after vacuous question to Emmitt and Cheryl, from Dancing With the Stars, hardly taking a breath. It was almost as if Clay weren't even there.

I thought it was funny, a joke. She didn't. He apologized, on the air. They moved on.

Story over, right? Of course not! It's show biz folks.

Kelly RIpa has shown a negative bias against Clay since the first time they met and she went on about how much she liked Ruben. That's fine, I like Ruben too. But I wouldn't get all up in his face about how much better I liked Clay. Isn't that kind of... disrespectful? She also said she was "removing" all the Claymates from the audience and bringing her fans in. Such a respectful way to treat a guest, no? No.

Speaking of disrespectful, I admit I am confused. I seem to recall a time when Kelly dressed up as Clay for Halloween. In fact, she showed this on the show Friday. But only part of it. She didn't show the part where she, as a flaming homosexual Clay, kissed Regis, who was in costume as Bo Bice.

What a respectful way to portray Clay! Except NOT. And this is how he was welcomed at the very beginning of the show.

But that's not all. On Friday's show, with full knowledge that Clay doesn't like cats, in fact, has a phobia of cats, she still waved a cat photo in his face, on the air, on purpose. Even made a threatening statement about it. But I assumed she was kidding. You know, that she was making a joke.

Sort of like when Clay put his hand over her mouth.

I guess humor is often lost on the fanatical.

I am not saying Clay was right in trying to surpress Kelly's interview with Emmitt and Cheryl so as to be able to do the thing he was brought on the show to do, to you know, contribute. But considering he had been insulted by Ripa from the time they first took the stage, I can only imagine how frustrated he must have been.

Kelly Ripa's bias against Clay is well documented, and goes way back. She thought Clay was the person she portrayed that Halloween two years ago. Her lack of knowledge about who Clay really is? That's on her, not him. Her rant this morning made her look petty and small. And most of all, silly.

Kelly Ripa, you lost a fan today.

I'm not saying two wrongs make a right. But I am saying this...

Respect is a two way street. You can't treat people like dirt and then expect them to kiss your ass.

Kelly is supposed to be a professional talk show host. Clay is a singer, who was invited to appear on the show as the cohost. He was then treated disrespectfully himself, from the beginning.

Consider this - the show was LIVE; no taping and editing. He was made fun of with the Halloween video, he had a cat picture waved in his face, he didn't get to interview anyone, and his performance was plagued with poor sound management.

Even with all those factors, he still was able to be funny, to interact with Kelly, even if he wasn't allowed to interact with the guests, and to hopefully have some fun while there.

If you agree with me that Clay did a wonderful job for his very first LIVE cohosting gig, please take a minute and let the Live With Regis & Kelly show know. This is great PR for Clay!

Go to Live With Regis & Kelly, click on "Review this episode," register and tell them how much you enjoyed seeing Clay on the show Friday!

You know, there is no need to bash Kelly for her unprofessional demeanor on the show this morning; in fact, I don't see the need to acknowledge her at all. She really isn't that important in the grand scheme of Clay's life.

What's important is supporting Clay. I respectfully encourage you to do just that.

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Important Info About Internet Gossip Sites

2006-11-08T12:01:00.000-08:00

In regards to certain online gossip sites, and you know who they are, I recently came upon this bit of information.

With so many options and differing traffic estimates, it's hard to say with any certainty just how much [sitedeleted].com rakes in. But Web industry insiders who know the site and have used the same BlogAds system estimate that he's netting a minimum of $20,000 per month from BlogAds alone—likely more when all levels of ad sales are factored in. Henry Copeland, president and founder of BlogAds, considers [sitedeleted].com one of his biggest financial success stories, given that it's a one-man operation with almost no overhead. While refusing to talk specifics, Copeland says [name deleted] "works the same hours as a brain surgeon. But he gets paid better." (For what it's worth, the median income for a neurosurgeon is about $300,000 a year.)

Now, forgive me if I'm wrong, but it's doubtful that I, or you, will ever make that kind of money in a single year. (If your situation is different, then congrats to you!)

However, considering the website(s) in question are successful due to their publishing the most unflattering and downright humiliating photos and information that can be made up in a tiny little mind, and considering the vast majority of the information is outright fabricated lies, and considering that all this money is being made on the back of people who happen to be celebrities, most of whom are just trying to go about the process of living their (sometimes flawed) lives, then I call it blood money.

I realize why so many people love to see our favorite (and not-so-favorite) celebrities get thrashed by airing all their dirty laundry (true or NOT) in public. Who do these celebs think they are, after all? What gives them the right to behave with such implied entitlement and privilege? Who died and made them god, with their bling and their fancy clothes and their holier-than-thou attitudes?

The public, that's who. The American public worships celebrity, and then thrives on seeing it destroyed. We build them up to tear them down. If I wasn't afraid of boring everyone to death, I might say this was also a metaphor for what people with low self esteem do to get them through the day.

You think celebrities have a "god complex?" I think the public has one as well. Woohoo! We rock! We showed that high and mighty celeb they are no better than we are!

I'll bet you a dollar to a doughnut that at least half the people who visit and post on these gossip sites do so because they feel guilty for their own celebrity worship. I wouldn't be surprised if half the people who visit these sites own the albums, have seen the movies, and wear the tshirts with their fave "stars" on the front.

Hypocrisy reigns.

Have you ever read the small print?

[sitedeleted].com is all about gossip and satire. The content that is published contains rumors, speculation, assumptions, opinions, and factual information. Postings may contain erroneous or inaccurate information. The owner of this site does not insure the accurateness of any content presented on [sitedeleted].com.

No kidding.

You may think it's OK to just go look, and not post. Wrong. Every time you click on the link to one of these sites, it is recorded. Ad prices are based on the number of hits the site receives. The more hits, the higher the ad revenue, the more money in the pocket of the gossip monger. Even if everyone just "looked" and no one posted, these bloggers would still be wealthy men.

Now think about certain other rumor mongers on the Net; those with a blog that won't die. Think he has other aspirations in mind? Aspirations that begin with "ka" and end with "ching?" Think about it.

So please, don't look. Don't visit, don't post, don't acknowledge.

Don't go there. Because in doing so, you are putting blood money into the already fat coffers of people who lack the humanity of moral human beings. Be elevated, be enlightened.

May they all become invisible.

Thank you for your consideration.

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Clay's Blog is Mucho Good-O! (His Term, Not Mine)

2006-11-05T21:13:00.000-08:00

"Oh my Lord! Where in the world have I been?"

Those were the first words of Clay's blog this week, his first since the inception of the Year 2 Fan Club site.

I won't quote the blog, due to proprietary restrictions; however, suffice it to say that he made up in verbage for the lost time!

Of course the fan reaction is mixed, as always. Let's see...he didn't write the blog, he did write it!... he divulged no "new" information, he's so funny!... he didn't mention Kimmel, he spelled so many words wrong, he loves us!...

I call it Claymate Whiplash!

After weeks and weeks of fans begging for Clay to blog after the CD dropped, during which time he was out doing his "promotion run" which evidently meant dealing with questions about his sexuality on national TV, twice, being sick, and making or taping several TV appearances, he did apologize for not blogging recently.

Apparently one of the reasons was that he couldn't access the new fan site! He also said he was lazy and irresponsible. Hey, aren't we all sometimes? Sure we are.

He said the "promotion run," just like that, with the quotations, was draining. I guess it was.

How must it feel to know a large segment of the general public disbelieves something about you, regardless of what you say? How exhausting must it be to know so many people have a preconceived belief about you that is contrary to your own self identity, and based entirely on oversimplified, sterotypical notions?

How frustrating must that be? How draining?

He mentioned being on the Megan Mullally Show, and in what seems like a response to some who complained about his hijinks conducting (aka "controlling") the audience in cheering, he thanked the fans in attendance for playing along.

Too bad. He should have just been able to say "Stuff it, you weren't even there," to those complainers. The audience control thing is one of the oldest fan antics in the book. Many people have done it in the past, and no doubt, it will be done many times in the future by people less known than Clay. It's meant to be fun, and those who don't get that need to find a sense of humor, and fast.

His next comment was about how much fun he had taping the Tyra Banks Show. I guess so; I heard she was all over him. I hate you Tyra Banks.

Just kidding! I can't wait to see that one - should be great!

Kristy and Mary get busted next. It seems they are huge Days of Our Lives fans, and we are encouraged to pray they don't abduct all their favorite characters. Now, I don't watch soaps, but I did tune in one day last week just to get a feel for the storyline. I'm still not sure what the story is about, but it's definitely taking place mostly in the character's beds. I may have to rethink this soap thing after all... The episode airs December 22.

Clay then confirmed that he would be co-hosting with Kelly Ripa on Live With Regis & Kelly. Almost like having his own talk show! If you are thinking of being in the audience, I understand you have to apply up to a year in advance for tickets.

Walmart is the exclusive distributor of the upcoming Christmas EP. Clay said the songs, All is Well, My Grown Up Christmas List, Christmas Waltz and O Come Emmanuel are four of his favorites. It's available November 28. Jesse Vargas, who was the musical conductor for Joyful Noise 2004, will serve as musical director for the Clay Aiken Symphonic Christmas shows in December.

Clay loves him some Christmas. Of course, if he had to do all the shopping, cooking, wrapping and decorating, I bet he would change his mind!

And after all that, he made it back to Raleigh in order to vote in the general election today.

The man has priorities. I like that.

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The Deunification of the Claymates

2006-11-03T00:09:00.000-08:00

In union there is strength. -Aesop

Once upon a time, in the not too distant past, I came upon a search engine for blogs. I typed "clay aiken" into the search box. What came back curled my eyelashes.

It was a cacophony of hate speech from rumor mongers and famewhore wannabes; about Clay, the Claymates, Claymaniacs, Claydawgs, etc. - the fans. And in the midst of the mire, there were a few gleaming examples of fine blogging about the adventure that is Clay Aiken.

I was compelled to add my two cents to the fray, because one - most of the blogging was negative in tone and poorly written, and two - I have something to say.

Deciding to delve a little deeper into the fandom than my normal occasional cruising of two or three forums, in order to get up to date with all that was new and exciting in Clay Nation, I began to seek out new blogs and new forums.

Man, that has been an eye opener, to be sure.

I learned a few things. First of all, that Clay is right - there really are some "enthusiastic" fans out there. Second of all, that the Clay Nation remains as diverse as it always was, and finally, that there is a fracture in this fandom.

You know that gossip stuff I mentioned earlier? Most of the fans with which I am acquainted didn't give two hoots about any of that. And neither have I.

However, with the latest CD dropping with what appears to be a fraction of the promotion some fans think it deserves, and the scurrilous gossip still going strong after the better part of a year, it appears there is an undercurrent running throughout Clay Nation that causes some people to recognize all sort of nefarious plots, conspiracies and downright evil schemes to damage Clay's reputation and his career.

Is it real? I don't know. If it is, who are the instigators? I don't know. But I can clearly see the end game, and it could be devastating.

I know how that sounds... paranoid much? However, look at all the things that have recently happened.

We have new, private forums being created which serve as either headquarters for witch hunts or some form of group therapy. Or both. We have groups of vigilante fans seeking "justice," stricter forum membership requirements, fans needing to "step back..."

Some fans have become suspicious of others for not sharing their pessimistic mind set, becoming more intolerant of differing opinions every minute. We have overinvested fans of other artists cyberstalking not just Clay, but Clay's fans as well. There are disparaging comments being flung around about Clay's label, his publicist, his management and even his friends. Previously fun loving fans have become humorless vestiges of their former witty selves. We don't hear Clay on the radio, or see his video on TV.

The Clay Nation is a powerful entity, books about the subject notwithstanding. It remains diverse, and active. But lately, not always productive.

What is in the process of being damaged is the one thread that has always bound the Clay Nation together, made us strong, and made us effective - The Fun!

The excitement of making new friends, traveling the country, learning about technology, becoming empowered, creative, and part of a community; and most of all, experiencing Clay's journey with him as he navigates the adventure that is now his life.

Since the beginning, the diverse groups making up Clay Nation have always coexisted peacefully while maintaining their own identities and continuing to support Clay. Fracturing the fandom by turning fans against each other, removing the element of Fun, and adding the elements of worry, distrust, and frustration, is an effective way of reducing our numbers, diluting our influence and therefore hurting Clay.

In my opinion, right now is the time we should be making every effort to stay united in purpose, tolerant of change and strong in resolve. We need not all share a brain; that would marginalize our identity and, would never happen anyway!

Fans, meaning all those who support and respect Clay, and not the fringe pseudo fans, should try to stand united for him now. It's an important time in Clay's career, and he needs us, now more than ever.

It doesn't matter who the instigators are - the label, the media, the stalkers; we have no control over them. We must engage and utilize the one thing over which we do have control - ourselves, our attitudes, our actions and our support.

Our attitudes - to each other, our actions - to the media and general public, and our support - to Clay.

When you trust someone, you have to accept that there will be things you don't understand.

I don't understand what is happening right now, but I trust Clay.

Always and forever.

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Sexy Is as Sexy Does

2006-10-31T18:51:00.000-08:00

The ConCLAYve: Sex, Sexy and Sex on a Stick

The ConCLAYve's latest blog, linked above, has made me think about how the characteristic of being "sexy" is so very subjective. Many people, even some fans, just don't see in Clay what so many other of his fans do see.

Even Clay himself doesn't see it, often saying "I don't get it, I just don't get it!" I think he's starting to get it though, don't you?

Well, here's one Claymate's opinion.

While research proves there is power in physical "attractiveness," the art of being sexy is not solely about the physical attributes of a person. Or, the wardrobe choices of a masterful stylist. Or a hot new haircut, for that matter. Neither is it about broad shoulders, long legs, smoldering looks, or a nice backside.

OK, maybe a little bit.

To this Claymate however, sexiness is a more abstract concept.

Here's what is sexy to me. A person who looks you straight in the eye - inordinately sexy.

Approachability. By this, I don't mean invading someone's personal boundaries, but rather, a person with which you feel you could have a fun conversation, someone who would make you feel comfortable. A man who imparts warmth and compassion for others, especially others less fortunate, is very sexy.

Intelligence, or at least awareness of what's going on in the world; a person who can challenge me, provide stimulating conversation, and, even debate a little bit - that's very pleasing. Maybe he's a little competitive, but not annoyingly so.

Remember that "really nice guy," with a "great personality" your friends always wanted you to meet? Remember how that usually meant a guy that may be lacking a little in the "looks" department? Well, I usually liked those guys. Because they were nice, and they did have a great personality.

There is nothing worse than meeting a guy whose very visage makes your insides twingle, then finding out he is dumber than a stick. Trust me, I dated those guys. And, I've learned from friends who are fortunate enough to have those wonderful, long, happy marriages, the wisdom of marrying a man who is kind, thoughtful, and compassionate, and who gives good conversation.

Creative, artistic people are often moody, awkward, and come off as tongue tied misfits when in public situations. Some are dumber than a piece of cardboard. So believe me when I say: personality is paramount!

Speaking of compassion, there is nothing sexier than a man who thinks of others before himself, who has an innate desire, a need even, to do good deeds, to help others. Heart achingly sexy.

A great sense of humor is important, and any man who makes me laugh is someone I'm automatically drawn to. A man who often laughs at himself, even better. And a man who is ticklish? Well, just imagine the possibilities.

Talent. A person who is confident in their talent is incredibly attractive, but arrogance...not so much. There is a big difference. Every one of us has a talent of some type. It may be in sculpting, drawing, dancing, or singing. For some of us, our talent is less obvious. One of the sexiest men I ever knew was once my best friend. His talent was in being a friend. Whatever the gift, in yourself, or in others; find it, embrace it, and most of all, respect it. That's sexy.

But when all is said and done, the sexiest man on earth to me is one who keeps his heart open when it comes to receiving love, and keeps his mind open when it comes to giving love.

Really, it's not too much to ask - is it?

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Soap Me Up Clay!

2006-10-30T16:53:00.000-08:00

Claymates, take note: Your guy is now a soap opera star.

Clays of our Lives.

Clay Aiken Gets Soapy.

Aiken to Sing on Days of Our Lives, Officially Marking the Slowest Days of the Year. (Huh?)

Attention Claymates! Clay Aiken will perform on NBC’s ‘Days of our Lives’

What, like only Claymates would want to hear Clay sing? Honey, please.

This is just a sampling of the recent headlines from entertainment news pages around the world, linked at over 100 sites on Yahoo at this writing, and found in every single Yahoo and Google news alert for the past week, and mentioned on every entertainment show, national and local.

What could be so mind blowingingly important to rate such publicity? A presidential appointment? A UNICEF trip?

A new album?

None of the above. The event that is garnering all this publicity is the taping of a single appearance on a daytime soap opera. In fact, it rivals the publicity that swirled around us before and after the AI5 surprise party featuring Clay's New Hairstyle.

Don't get me wrong; it's great when Clay Aiken gets good publicity of any kind. But when the PR for a new haircut and a soap opera performance overshadows anything that has been printed about his recent presidential appointment to the Committee for Individuals with Disabilities, and his trips to Africa and Banda Aceh for UNICEF, not to mention his brand new, beautifully produced showcase of pop love songs from the past twenty years or so, which opened in the number two spot behind the ubiquitous Justin Timberlake, and which has sold over 350,000 copies in just four weeks, well, that just ain't right my friends.

The obsession with such pop culture frivolities as haircuts and soap operas (not to mention sexuality) is a sign to this Claymate that something is amiss in our society.

Now, I'm no stick-in-the-mud, far from it. Nor am I a prude. (Very far from that.) I'm sure the pop culture obsession that is rampant right now has something to do with fantasy, escapism, denial, and possibly even politics.... but I'm not tackling it at this time.

Maybe later though.

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Clay and His Fans Are Making a Difference

2006-10-25T08:13:00.000-07:00

American Idol Fans Have Fun, Building Lasting Friendships While Helping Others.

(PRWEB) October 25, 2006 -- Cure diabetes; help bring peace to northern Uganda; help kids go to school; send candy to troops in Iraq; check on caregivers and people who live alone; or how about build a new wing for a children's hospital?

These are just some of the efforts that American Idol fans have supported, not only on behalf of their favorite Idol, but simply because they can pool their enormous well-organized resources together to make a difference.

The list of fortunate charitable programs who have received contributions from this rapidly growing fan base includes well-known organizations such as UNICEF, St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, The Children's Hospital and the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation, as well as newer organizations which have benefited from awareness and contributions such as the Bubel/Aiken Foundation, GuluWalk, CheckOnMe.org and others.

Many celebrities have put their names and visibility to work for the causes they support, but what makes this network of givers stand out is their passion for being part of a nation of tightly bonded fan-friends. American Idol fans are not on board because they are star-struck, but because they identify with someone who was just like them or like the people they know in their hometowns, families, schools, at work and places of worship. The exuberance that these supporters embrace from rallying around the lucky few contestants who become finalists for the American Idol reality TV phenomenon is unlike any other magic they have experienced in their lives in a long time.

When Clay Aiken was on American Idol, his fans began making contributions to the AE Finley YMCA in Raleigh, where Clay worked during the summer camps. They also sent money on his behalf to the Autism Society of NC, in honor of his work with a child with autism while in college.

The following information is from the news blog at Claymaniacs News Network.

In 2004, Clay participated in the "Arthur: Stories for Heroes” audio book, with proceeds benefiting the Elizabeth Glaser Pediatric AIDS Foundation and other children’s charities.

Also in 2004, Clay performed with Heather Headley at the Children & Families Initiative of Broadway Cares/Equity Fights Aids event in New York City. There was recently a poster from that event, autographed by Clay and other participants, for sale on eBay in continued support.

A shirt and tie worn by Clay during his Summer 2004 Tour was auctioned in December 2004 in support of YouthAIDS, an action-based global initiative working in over sixty countries to educate and protect young people from HIV/AIDS. It brought over $2,400.

In support of the 2004 Give a Hand program, benefiting Ronald McDonald House Charities, Clay's handprints in cement were auctioned for $15,099.

Clay is a national ambassador and spokesman for UNICEF, which advocates and places a high priority on AIDS education and protection of children’s health around the world.

In 2005, his participation in Kenneth Cole’s “Clothes Off Our Back” charity raised over $27,000 in support of UNICEF and other charities.

Early in 2006, Clay joined Susan Sarandon, Julianne Moore, Dustin Hoffman and other stars on "NBC for Tsunami Relief." The benefit raised more than $10 million nationally.

In addition, he served as 2005 national spokesperson for UNICEF's Trick or Treat campaign, 2004 national spokesperson for the Toys For Tots campaign, and supported Youth Service America, the Make A Wish Foundation, Best Buddies, and so much more.

In 2003, Clay formed his own foundation. The Bubel/Aiken Foundation was created in order to bring awareness to issues of inclusion. Their mission is to “provide services and financial assistance to facilitate the full integration of children with disabilities into the life environment of those without.” His heart was bound to the issue of inclusion when, while working at the YMCA, he learned there were no means to allow children with special needs into the camp programs.

I'm sure there's more. But think about this - the success of the fundraising spearheaded by Clay was really due to his fans, the Claymates, Claydawgs, Claymaniacs - Clay Nation. Many celebrities realize their position of power and influence and make use of it for the good of society. Kudos to all that do.

But for these young, fresh faced artists, flush with the initial glow of success, to enter into their careers with one foot on the concert stage and the other in mainstream altruistic endeavors, speaks to what could possibly become a new era of meaningfulness in the music industry.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if the next big format would include music that inspires the human spirit to action; to do good work, to affect positive change, to use our voices for more than just a song. To do things not normally imaginable by man.

Not like contemporary Christian music, which is often beautifully uplifting spiritually, but more a call to action.

I dream of a day when we can turn on the radio and hear music that inspires us to believe in each other, trust one another, help one another. Music that teaches us how to come together in the spirit of love, forgiveness and caring.

I know that music exists now. Why do we not hear it? I want more. Am I the only one?

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The Power of Nice

2006-10-21T10:00:00.000-07:00

Be nice. It often makes people wonder what you are up to.

The current issue of Image magazine features an interview with Michael Orland. According to his website, Michael is is currently the Pianist, Arranger and Associate Musical Director for American Idol. He also worked with Clay in creating the arrangements and setlist for his 2005 Jukebox Tour.

During the course of the interview, writer Dianne Austin asked Orland about working with Clay Aiken.

"I think Clay's new, great look is indicative of what is about to break for his future. He'll be hitting the music scene with fresh material in a big way. He's just got it - he's that talented and that different."

"Clay is one of the most giving and generous performers I've ever known. When I worked with him on his Jukebox Tour it became particularly evident. I have never seen a performer in my life who can share the spotlight as easily and genuinely with other talented people like he does and feel so unthreatened by it. That can only come from a feeling of complete security about who he is as a performer - it's one of the things that make him unique."

As is typical in any fanbase, the interview spread throughout Clay Nation, and as a result, many thoughtful fans and Claymates sent thanks to Michael for expressing such kind sentiments about their favorite singer.

A fan reported this message from Michael, in regards to all the love coming his way.

"I love all the E-mails I'm getting with people THANKING me for the nice things I said about Clay - it's so great. But I do say the things I say because I think he's a HUGE talent - and a great guy - and I don't care what the critics say or do - the PEOPLE speak, and they know...and Clay will be a huge talent and will be around for a LONG LONG time cuz he's that good.
Take care."

If you would like to thank Michael for his kind words about Clay, you can leave him a message on his website, linked above.

Regardless of what the media would have us think, some of the nicest people in the universe are citizens of Clay Nation. I've read and heard story after story of the kind and generous actions of the fans of Clay Aiken.

Do you have a story? Please share it.

I think it would be lovely to have all those stories together, in one place. And no one has to buy a book in order to see them.

You never know who might be reading.

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Fan Baiting 101

2006-10-17T11:17:00.000-07:00

They think they are so smart. HA!

Ex.1 From a review of Clay's friend Ruben Studdard's new CD release:

"But when he sticks to songs that complement his individuality, Studdard has no problem maintaining his position as Idol royalty.

Take that, Claymates."

"Take that, Claymates?" Take what? A favorable comment about Clay's friend Ruben Studdard? Sure, I'll take that, no problem. It's not like it's a knife in the back after all, since Clay and Ruben are friends. The writer's comment is flawed in that there is nothing wrong with what he said about Ruben, therefore there is nothing for the Claymates to "take."

Ex.2 From a music reviewer about to review Clay's friend Ruben Studdard's new CD release:

"WARNING: This column mentions Clay Aiken, and not in a favorable light. So if you're a Clay-mate, you might want to skip to the sports section and read a story about some world-class athlete like Marco Scutaro. The warning is really more for my benefit than for the Clay-mates. Misguided as they may be in regard to their singer, they are undeniably passionate fans. Whenever I write about him, usually in a less-than-flattering manner, I get bombarded with e-mails from irate fans. Nobody sends e-mails like a Clay Aiken fan. But I hope those e-mails will be countered by supporters of other acts in today's new releases column. The top of the class includes Sarah McLachlan, Vince Gill and Diddy. Read on — look for the Aiken reference if you'd like — as I cruise through the latest batch of new records. "

Wow. There are no less than FIVE mentions of Clay and/or "Clay-mates" in this paragraph; and he hasn't even got to the reviews yet. And none of the reviews are for Clay's album either, in fact, the column is not about Clay at all. In fact, if I'm not mistaken, it almost seems as if he is using those Clay mentions to get us to read his article. The article that isn't about Clay. What's up with that?

I'll tell you what's up with that, and the other example as well. These two recent mentions are prime examples of fan baiting, or "Bait the Mates."

What is fan baiting? When a writer makes a random negative comment for the express purpose of garnering a response, and no other reason, that is baiting.

It's also the standard behavior of a bully. Both writers are practically begging for responses from Clay fans. The question is: Why?

Here's why. Power. Control. Because they fancy themselves the puppetmasters and we, when we acknowledge, are their puppets. I'm not a professional writer, but I do know one thing - all writers want to know they are being read. And, most writers want to know they have affected the reader in some way.

(For example, I love when you leave a comment. But, if you don't, that's OK too, because I know from the page views that lots of people are reading. And by the way, thank you!)

Writers who make critical comments about Clay in articles that have nothing to do with him, do it for one reason, and that is to get a response; to push our buttons, yank our chains, and pee in our Cheerios.

Writers for online publications must justify themselves in order to be relevent. One way to do this is to increase web traffic to their page. Did you know that a well known Internet gossip monger used Clay's fans to launch his career? It's true, and here's how - by making derogatory comments about Clay on his gossip site, he incited the Claymates into a fury unlike any ever seen.

The fans stormed his website in order to defend Clay's honor, others showed up just to witness the train wreck; all of which increased web traffic to the point where he could then begin to actually sell advertising space on his site. Before which, he was a struggling blogger, being sued by a legitimate print publication for violating their copyright.

Now he has a widely read gossip site, guests on entertainment TV programs, and is basically a member of the Hollyweird jet set. He actually thanked the Claymates in an interview.

The results of the storming of the site? Nothing. He still makes insulting comments about Clay, and he's richer for it.

Here's the thing; a very wise singer from Raleigh once said he "chooses his battles." I think he knows what he's talking about, so I hereby resolve to follow his lead and do just that, and in doing so, I will be dealing these baiters the very punishment they deserve for their bullying behavior -

I will ignore them.

Trust me, they will hate being ignored. It will hurt them much more than an insulting email from a defensive Claymate. From now on, I'm following Clay's lead. I'm saving the big guns for the real battles, the important ones, not some pissing match with some obscure critic who means nothing to Clay, or to me.

I know it's difficult not to speak to a perceived verbal injustice, but I will consider the source in the future, and preserve my energy for the times when it's truly important to do so, not every time some hipper-than-thou critic randomly tosses Clay's name into the mix like so much loose change.

It seems much easier when I think of Clay's own words...."choose your battles." I will choose more wisely in the future, and both Clay and myself will be better for it.

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How it All Begn Part 1

2006-10-15T07:44:00.000-07:00

There are two things I love about Clay Aiken. Beyond the obvious of course.

One – his determination to be a person of worth. I guess you could call it stubbornness. The man is bound and determined to have purpose in his life; whether he becomes one of the world’s greatest recording artists and humanitarians, or the beloved principal of some charter school in Podunk, North Carolina.

Or both.

Two - his way of inspiring such passion and emotion, both good and bad, in so many people. Ones who claim to not like him seem to know every little obscure thing about him, from exact quotes in his interviews to who grooms his dogs. And some of those who love him, whatever their reasons, believe with their full heart that he inspires them to be better people.

A person with the power and opportunity to affect change, who also has the ability to inspire passion, and action; a person with these qualities may be threatening to some people. Sure, he's polarizing, and has been since Idol. But that’s not entirely a bad thing. More on all this later.

There has probably been a mention of Clay in some type of media every day for the past three years. Some are random and totally unrelated to him, except in principle. His name has become synonymous with the idea that “second place is sometimes better.” He is the Avis Rent a Car of current pop culture consciousness.

People, in general, are interested in him; if not his music, just the idea of him. Clay especially fascinates the media. They don’t seem to understand why, which creates a sort of subconscious resentment in some, resulting in many of those mentions being negative in tone. Clay is different, and interesting. He is different because he is succeeding while in defiance of standard celebrity norms. He is interesting because he cannot be labeled.

With his recent stance of refusing to respond to questions about his personal life, he has made himself even more intriguing.

It must be exasperating to those who feel they must always have their finger on the pulse of pop culture, even while dismissing most of it by lazily slapping a label on everything and everyone in the public eye. Some throw around labels like so much rice at a wedding. “Geek, elfin, mama’s boy, crooner,” the media declares. But somehow, those epithets fall short, and are laughable even, because we know he is really more.

Clay Aiken must be a source of frustration for those who believe all things can and must be labeled. For some, if it can’t be labeled, it must not be good. And that must be conveyed to the masses; the unwashed, unhip, middle American, adult female masses.

Using more labels while doing so; such as "blue haired," "teenybopper," "nostalgic moms," and other unoriginal descriptives. As I said in DMCI, the media sometimes appears to be as or more interested in the fans than the fans are in Clay.

People don’t always “get” Clay. Even some fans can’t explain their devotion. Even he doesn’t get why people like him. I’m pretty sure he realizes people love his voice. There are some who respect his humanitarian endeavors, others who admire how he deals with adversity. He is informed, funny, confident, thoughtful, and talented. He has purpose. He makes people happy, or inspires them. There isn’t one answer, and that’s OK. Not all questions in life have only one answer.

The critics often go beyond the pale of just reviewing the music. They are somehow compelled to also review his origins, his looks, and even his fans. Often, I have to laugh at some of the reviews. But that's another blog.

Then there are those who don’t understand why others like him. Especially the ones who are the antithesis of what he is about, or who don’t know anything about him except his surface.

Or perhaps they see in him what is missing in themselves.

On American Idol, Clay refused to label himself. Letting the stylists on the show mold him to their will (except for the unfortunate demand that his freckles be covered,) he stood tall in the face of weekly diatribes from Simon (which included, yes, labels, such as "Broadway".) His strategy in the competition seems to have been allowing America to ascribe onto him their own notions of an “idol." A good strategy perhaps, but it fell short.

Or perhaps it was really the logistics of American Idol voting that fell short. You can only put so much water into a bucket, or so many phone calls onto the phone lines, before you lose some in the overflow. Just a theory.

His role from the very beginning was that of underdog. He lost his first audition, so he tried again. He lost the first round, but America brought him back. He did not win the title of “American Idol,” coming in second to his friend Ruben, but he did seem to win the hearts of America.

Enter the Claymates.

To be continued - feedback is welcome.

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TV Guide Channel Presents: Clay Aiken - Up Close

2006-10-13T21:29:00.000-07:00

Next up in the brilliantly conceived promotional campaign for his fabulously beautiful CD, A Thousand Different Ways... a TV Guide Close Up special.

(That's snark by the way, about the promotion anyway; the part about the CD is truth. What? You don't think it's fabulously beautiful? Well, that's another blog.)

The TV Guide network is airing an hour long program next weekend called "Clay Aiken: Close Up." They say it includes a "whole new sit down interview" and the promo footage shows some as yet unseen video of Clay at his last TV Guide cover shoot. That would be the one that brought us this most swoon-worthy photo.

But some who viewed their Kelly Clarkson Close Up said it contained some non-flattering commentary by some alleged "comedians" and tabloid types. You know what? I have no desire to see anything like that. I get enough crap and lies just by watching the nightly news, know what I mean? For that reason, I am not going to get all fluttery and say this one is "must see Clay TV!!"

Instead, like a good Clay fan, I will withhold judgement until I see it with my own eyes.

Eyes wide open.

But, if it's craptastic, I vow NOT to write TV Guide and tell them what meanies they are, that they owed him more since he helped sell so many magazines for them. No, I will not do that. Why? Not because they are not meanies, but because it's what they expect, it's what they WANT. I'm not playing.

However, if it's a nice retrospective of his career up to now, I WILL write to them and sing their praises and thank them profusely. From the bottom of my Clay lovin' heart. I may send them cookies even.

I resolved long ago to always focus my karmic energy and personal power on the positive, and to ignore the negative. Because goodness and humor and positive energy deserve to be recognized. Positive energy begets positive energy.

And the meanies, who crave the attention their negative energy pathetically begs for, deserve to be IGNORED. Because they are nothing to me, and not worthy of my time nor my energy.

Here's the link, which is actually quite cute. That Clay, he is such a motor mouth. And his feet are freakin' huge man!

Clay on TV Guide - Close Up

What do you think about the promo, will you be watching, and if the program is good, will you make a promise to write TV Guide and thank them?

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Debunking the Myth of the Claymates

2006-09-27T21:52:00.001-07:00

I don't know about you, but I think it's time to set the record straight.

For three years, the media has operated under the erroneous assumption that Claymates, or Clay Dawgs, Clay Nation, Claymaniacs, Clayniacs, Claynadians, Claysians, or just FANS, whatever moniker you choose, are either twelve year old teenyboppers or "blue haired grandmothers."

Not that there's anything wrong with that - we are that, and proud of it. But we are more.

Then there are those days we are an army of "middle aged women," most often spoken as if that's a bad thing. Why is that a bad thing? And why are the media hell bent on disparaging us? And most of all, why is it "disturbing" that Clay Aiken has middle aged female fans? That very judgemental statement, made by an obscure website geared to men, is more disturbing to me.

As fans of Clay Aiken, we have taken a beating in the press, often being referred to as "rabid," or "obsessed," or even "a cult."

OK, we may occasionally resemble that remark, usually during concert season or CD release time. Pretty much like the fans of many artists, in fact. Or, sports teams, if you get my drift. If we were mostly "middle aged men" instead of women, I don't think the media would be so intolerant, so judgemental, so openly hostile and resentful.

...So disturbingly concerned with us. In fact, the media seems more obsessed with the Claymates than the Claymates are with Clay. Put that in your pipe and smoke it.

However, I don't think I care to sit back any longer while the media continues to define me as part of a giant, three headed, rabid, crazy-ass fan monster. It is neither fair nor reasonable to paint an entire fan base with a single brush. The Clay Nation is diverse. While many of us "came for the voice and stay for the man," just as many of us stay for the voice as well. And the hair, let's not forget the hair. Some of us stay for the hair. ; )

Guess what? Whether we are 2 or 82, male, female, straight, gay, black, white, Asian, Hispanic, a student, a middle aged female, or a rocket scientist; we have the right to enjoy and support whomever we choose. We have a right to have and own an opinion, and to express it as well. Over the years, most of us have learned to "choose our battles." But some of us have more spare time than others. ; )

Sure, some of us are opinionated. But just as many (if not MORE)are in this for the fun, the friendships and the music. Most of us do not "worship" Clay. And those that seem to, well, they aren't always "Claymates," if you know what I mean. We are number crunchers and fangirls, casual and intense. Some of us want to tuck him into bed and some of us want to take him to bed. With all due respect of course! And some of us, well, we just want to hear him sing.

There is no place in the entertainment arena for stereotyping or prejudice. I get quite enough of that in the real world, don't you? Stereotyping often leads to bias, bigotry and even the subjugation of entire groups of people.

So, cut it out.

Here's a newsflash for you - your intolerance and disrespect doesn't make US look bad, it makes YOU look bad. The point is, we do not all share a brain. We are a tribe of many ages, colors, backgrounds and beliefs. We are smart, funny and many of us know the score.

The one constant - we support Clay Aiken. We enjoy hearing him sing. We find him worthy of our time and our support. That is our choice, not yours. We want to have fun - so stop wasting your time trying to darken our experience! Keep your rude comments and bad vibes to yourself. It won't work anymore.

So, this blog. I think we should let you fine readers know who the Claymates, Clay Dawgs, Claymaniacs, Clayniacs and Clay FANS really are. Feel free to share your age, sex, state or province (or country, if outside the US,) your vocation, or anything else you choose to share about yourself, including what you like about Clay.

No personal info please; comments will be moderated - and may be edited for length ; )- to protect the poster as well as to keep the funsuckers out. There will be no sucking the fun out of this exercise! This blog comes with no challenge, no proclamations, no adversity, no drama. We just want to take the opportunity to say who we are, and, like Clay, to take back our identities from the media who attempt to stereotype us. Trust me, from my personal experience, there are some really cool people out there who like Clay. All flavors. Open your minds; you may be surprised.

This is who we are. Who we really are. Not who the media says we are.

Cheers!
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